Glad you presented this synastry with your comments, because it serves as an excellent example of harmonious synastry entirely misconceived as 'difficult'. It shows the aspects that every good relational astrologer likes to see involving Mercury for communication and mutual understanding, Venus for affection, Moon for domestic compatibility, and Jupiter for growth and good humor.Just counting the inter-aspects of synastry there are 24 positive/supportive aspects to only 8 negative/challenging ones. I did not count anything but planets, leaving out Asc, MC, etc, since I have not verified the accuracy of those points in both charts. Regardless of whatever aspects there may be to those other points, the totals are still overwhelmingly positive.
The most likely supportive aspects considered challenging or 'hard' are:
Your Jupiter opposite his Moon. This is not a hard or difficult aspect in synastry, but an excellent one supportive of good humor and honest exchange. My wife and I have this and it considerably relieves other challenging aspect dynamics far more challenging than anything your synastry presents.
Your Jupiter square his Venus. Again, this is a good aspect for synastry. Some indulgences are indicated, but these are the two benefics getting together between two people's charts in strong aspect.
ALL benefics - Sun to Venus or Jupiter in synastry aspects, including hard ones, should be counted as positive/supportive of relationship. That also means any person's Venus to other's Sun or Jupiter; any Sun-Jupiter. The only exception is Sun to Sun hard aspects. I count them as negative/challenging, but even those can be altered depending on their relationship in declination (Suns in fixed signs can be parallel: Taurus-Leo, Scorpio-Aqua).
I also count all aspects of Moon to Venus/Jupiter as positive and supportive of relationship, as well as all aspects of Moon to Asc.
Some aspects you probably have not considered:
- Your Moon is parallel his [18 north declination]. This is not just both being in the same sign of Cancer. When these two are conjunct it is well known to provide a great emotional platform of compatibility, especially between two people who want to be intimate and live together. This is domestic compatibility at its most basic. The parallel is just as strong and supportive as the conjunction.
- Your Jupiter is parallel his Uranus. This is an excellent aspect for a sense of adventure and luck. Both will be there given even a modest amount of patience.
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